We had the good fortune of connecting with Theresa Wells and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Theresa, other than deciding to work for yourself, what was the single most important decision you made that contributed to your success?
Learning to let go. To let go of fear of success and negative self talk. Seems odd to most. But there’s nothing odd about it. I have found over time that this is common with entrepreneurs. Especially us solo-preneurs. There are multiple “what ifs” that swim in your head and consume you. Such as, “What if I fail?” “What if I succeed and achieve all that I wanted to build?” “I can’t do this. I have to put time into the job I have or I’ll be homeless.” Negative self talk must be eliminated. We are what we think. We stand in our own way. I learned to let go of people in my life that are hindrances. That includes some family. Those that tell you to give up or that you cannot do it. People who question your intelligence and decision to do something bigger with your life. People who say they are your friends or family say they have your back; but instead, throw negativity at you. They aren’t meant to be in your circle. These people don’t have the drive I have or the tenacity. They deflect if they think they are not capable. Unfortunately, their negative self view is projected onto you. You have to walk away and surround yourself with successful business women and men who share your values and goals and can help you grow as a person and business owner. Letting go of fear of success and negative self-talk has taught me that I am capable of living a life that I want. A life that I am happy with. That there is freedom from living paycheck to paycheck. Most importantly, I am doing what I love and keeps me motivated to wake up every morning and do it all over again. That is to help people become their healthiest happiest selves. Help people discover they can move in ways that they thought was impossible and self manage their health. Lastly, my clients see that I care and can truly emphasize. Because I share my truth with them.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
What I love most about what I do is being able to offer what others don’t. A full fledged fitness and nutrition concierge service. In home personal training and nutrition coaching. I go to my clients. Being able to provide in home personal training services to my clients has been wonderful. They are more relaxed and involved and engaged with their nutrition and fitness when at home. There is no pressure for them to find and pay for babysitters or extend the daycare hours for their children. They are now using those home gyms that were being used to hang laundry on and collect dust. They love not having to stand in line for popular classes at the big commercialized gyms. What I’ve been told is, they love the fact that I have been offering online programs and classes before COVID-19 took away access to gyms and some of the outdoors areas. It was never new to them or a big learning curve. Also, I never had to shut down my services that they love so much. There was no break in their training. Online programs and live streaming classes is a winner. We do outdoor workouts as well. Most personal trainers do not offer nutrition supports and services or have been licensed or certificated to provide nutritional guidance. I take pride in going those additional miles. I am a rare find because I also offer in home cooking demos for my clients as part of my fitness and nutrition program. Along with grocery shopping field trips that teach you how to grocery shop for healthy foods without breaking your pocket. That includes plant based, organic lifestyles. I am a vegetarian that helps with offering more variety of foods to my vegan and vegetarian clients. Them knowing I know the difference between the two, allows trust to build with us. Getting where I am today was a battle. Still is. There is never any time off of learning more about fitness and health and safety that goes along with it. I would not be a wonderful support to those I help if I don’t keep current in this industry. If I stop wanting to learn more. Things get so hectic with training and trying to keep up with my own athletic conditioning that I had to schedule one day off every week. Sometimes I am still using part or all of my day off to create programs and improve classes based on feedback and just grow as an individual and personal trainer. I love what I do and when I am not assisting others with solving their health problems or helping them focus on eliminating their pain points, i’m not my happiest self. I have so much I want to share. In doing so I make connections, build relationships and learn from those I help.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
We would begin in wine country. Wine tasting and trying the food pairings. Taking a horse back riding winery tour. If horses aren’t their thing, a limo with scheduled stops. If it’s Spring or Summer definitely an outdoor jazz concert. As I am thinking about this, one thing I’ve never done that would be fun for us is a wine tasting train tour. Riding a train through spectacular views of oceans, valleys and mountain ranges while sipping. Going to the beach. That is a must do. Boogie boarding is fun. There are plenty of healthy food places in many areas that offer a variety of dishes for everyone. Because it has become difficult for me to have a cheat day, (developed disciplined habits), I would go to a place where I could order a vegan dish and have my cheat be wine or a dessert. It is rare that I even order a desert. This way my non vegan/vegetarian friend would be able to indulge. I would have to make them try Café Gratitude and True Foods. For something quick and healthy, Native Foods. The best time of it all would be a drive up the coastline from San Diego to Ventura. Plenty of scenery. Several rest stop areas for scenic pictures and best friend selfies and delicacies. Once we get further up the coast line, depending on the time of year, we can whale watch from the shore or take a whale watching tour. Om y goodness you cannot forget about Coronado. We can sightsee Hotel Del. I would have to take my friend to Peohe’s while there. One of the days be daring and go paddle boarding.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
My grandfather has always been my cheerleader. He was always there when I needed him. If it wasn’t for him, I would never have had conversations about the importance of education and how college would help me learn what he knew I wouldn’t get in any other classrooms. He encouraged me to read. So much so that I read a book a week as young as fourth grade. He also taught me fiscal responsibility before it was made a deal for young people to learn it. Work ethic and how to build relationships were his top teachings for me. I did not realize what he was doing for me as a child. It was only when I became older, that it sank in. He never lectured. He always had a life story filled with lessons and deep cultural roots tied in to our conversations. That’s what our time together was like. I did do all the fun kid stuff, like Disneyland, Magic Mountain, Zoo, etc. Aside from those trips, I enjoyed his time, attention and love. He was my go to. The thing I took away was, he made time for me. I didn’t get that growing up in my house. It was at my grandparent’s home that I learned valuable life lessons. As an adult, granddaddy was who I went to for help with college studies, business and social/political conversations. He was a huge people person. Which came with the territory of him being a Reverend. I miss him so much. I miss having someone to go to for help with thinking through things and direction. I cannot leave my son out of this scenario. My son is my drive. Always has been. Despite all of the talks with my grandfather, my son was the force that had me working harder and not giving up. Helping me not only to apply for universities but to complete my studies and earn the degrees that I have. Not with words. A reminder of needing to do better with my life and making a way for him to be greater at life than I was. He looks up to me. I couldn’t fail. He still does; as a grown man. I cannot fail. I wanted him to explore the world and learn from other cultures. Have life experiences. To go beyond the classroom. More learning happens outside of a classroom, than you think. Because of him and my granddaddy I don’t give up. My morning and as needed motivation that contributes to my success is listening to those who are influences. Les Brown, Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Lisa Nichols, Tony Robbins. Listening to them every morning and some afternoons is how I made it through the work day at what I call the, “ you’re almost done with this” job. The job you keep to pay the bills while you work on building your generational wealth.