We had the good fortune of connecting with Steven Wener and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Steven, what’s the most important lesson your business/career has taught you?
The most important lesson i’ve learned in my career is that quitting is not an option, because we only fail when we quit. I look at road blocks and impasses as opportunities to learn more about myself and also expand on how I do things in life, not just business. When ever i’ve met opportunity that I couldn’t fully maximize, if I wanted to bring that opportunity into my life, then I would do what was necessary to implement that area of interest. When you don’t allow yourself to quit, you learn how you function at a deeper level, because you will begin to explore each and every conversation your mind wants to have with you, and generally there are more conversations around why to stop and move on versus keep going. So, this process has also taught me how to focus on the voice I wanted to align myself with, instead of the voices that wanted to meep me in a place of current understanding and complacency. This has also allowed me to get rid of so many self limiting stories I had created for myself, for reasons that are all designed around keeping me in a current state of belief. I remember the moments in my life when I quit, or didn’t put my full abilities to work and those past events propel me forward. I never want to live in regret when I don’t have to. Life is an interesting place, and we have choices to move forward, stay in place (although not for very long), or regress and i’ve already been to the past, i’m currently in the moment, so why stay there longer than I need to, and i’m excited by the opportunities I’m focused on and want to get there. The journey is where all the magic happens anyways, destination is just another place we get to and then move on from. I could never have experienced the blessed life i’ve lived without massive failures, determination to pick up the pieces and recreate the picture I know I want to live. Quitting is a beautiful word that is only there in vocabulary for me. It doesn’t mean I must beat my head on a brick wall thinking my head is going to get through it, but more ideas and abilities and determination to get to a place that not everyone has the stomach to endure in order to get there.
Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
I am a real estate broker for over 27 years, as i was licensed in 1993. I learned to knock on doors when I was 10 years old selling news papers, and then at 14 I was working for my fathers company knocking on doors to sell his companies services. I learned how to break barriers with people at an early age, as I had to get into rapport with people in seconds, as they would come to the door and I couldn’t just stand there 🙂 Since I wasn’t afraid to meet strangers, talk to them in a “qualifying” manner, it has never been difficult for me to meet, connect and create relationships. Doing this wasn’t challenging for me, as I grew up in that environment, so it was something I took for granted, as I never understood at a young age what this skill set would prepare me for later in life.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
If my best friend came into town, which is San Diego, I would set up a lunch at a restaurant overlooking the ocean to begin with. We’d have a plant to visit the coast line going north up to San Francisco. We would stay at quaint hotels along the way, enjoy the sites in each location and work to integrate into the local places we were visiting. My friends and I aren’t the type to need to have something going on at every single moment of the day. So, the time and environment would be relaxed, spaced out for time so we can not feel rushed and also not need to always hit timelines. . .
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
I want to give this shout out to my father. He was one of the hardest working men i’ve ever met and he taught me so much about people and true grit. Without the lessons he taught me knowingly and unknowingly, I wouldn’t have had as great of an example to emulate to a degree. Love you Dad.