We had the good fortune of connecting with Nicki Gorini and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Nicki, what role has risk played in your life or career?
What I’ve observed in my own life and for my clients as well, is that taking risks is a crucial part of achieving and growing. Playing it safe doesn’t create anything new. There are certainly times where it’s appropriate to choose safety and security – especially when it impacts your mental and physical health. Yet, there are times where we have to take risks in order to achieve something remarkable. This absolutely requires you to get out of your comfort zone. If you put it all on the table and risk it all, that is when you have a real opportunity to get what you want and access to your own personal power. When you can look the risk in the face and say, it will be scary, but worth it to take this risk, and I’m willing to deal with the consequences, then your passion and ability to achieve results is on fire! Isn’t it ironic that you have to be willing to take a loss to get a gain? I think it’s incredible.
What should our readers know about your business?
I’m like a personal trainer for your mindset. I work with individual clients and organizations on achieving remarkable results. What sets me apart from others is that addition to goal setting and accountability, I work with clients to get to the underlying limited belief systems in order for them to have a permanent paradigm shift. I work with clients on their blind spots and overhauling the habits that don’t serve them while instituting the new habits that do. Our work together is life changing and the tools you gain can be used both professionally and personally and stay with you forever.
I used the tools I learned as a coach in my own life. I’ve been in practice just over 10 years now. It was not easy to get to where I am today business wise. Like typical craftswomen/men I coach because I love doing it. Learning and implementing effective business practices took a lot of trial and error. It required me to do the very thing I do with clients – deconstruct old habits that wouldn’t get me where I wanted to go, and institute the ones that will. I’m constantly learning. I read all of the time. I educate myself with classes. I seek out mentors and lean on them. I’ve very active with asking for guidance and advice. I assess my risks and take the ones that I think are worth the reward. I’ve also had to learn some very painful lessons. I still have challenges! However, I’m dedicated to growing and learning from each challenge. I truly believe if you make the choice that a challenge is strengthening you, then it will. My mentor, Charles Scott, says if it was easy then everyone would do it. He reminds me that I love the challenge. I’ve really come to terms with the fact that for me, and for many of the clients I work with, the overcoming challenges and obstacles makes us warriors. There’s not one underdog story where you don’t seek the person having to work hard and go through painful challenges. I’m thinking of Rocky while I write this. We love these stories! If you can see yourself as this person, then that will help you on your journey. If you think about the people you respect or admire, you can think about the challenges and risks they took. Facing our fears is terrifying, and it’s also incredibly rewarding. There’s a sense of freedom and power that comes with it. That my friends, is earned. No one can give it to you. That’s what makes the hard stuff worth it. The last thing I’ll say is if you want to achieve anything, you need to look at your willingness to fail. I don’t really believe anything is a failure if there’s learning involved. There’s not one person, CEO, or professional I’ve spoken with that won’t give me a laundry list of what didn’t work, go well, or flopped in their professional and personal life. It’s a guarantee that you will fail, make a mistake or do something wrong. The difference is – will you get up? Will you learn? Will you take it forward? That’s the main difference between experiencing a life of success (however you define it) and staying stuck, stagnant or stopped. Most people know this concept intellectually, but when they’re actually in the game and experiencing loss, discomfort, pain or fear – that’s the REAL test. When you can allow all the discomfort and keep going…this is where the magic happens.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
We’d definitely do a leisurely hike at Torrey Pines State Reserve. My favorite is the Beach Trail. After the 1 mile incline you hike down towards the beach. The views are incredible. Then you finish the hike with a relaxing walk along the beach back to the lot. I love to take my shoes off and walk barefoot. We’d do fish tacos for sure! So many great places to have them – South Beach in OB comes to mind. My favorite fancy place is Born and Raised in Little Italy. I love the retro steak house. The food is fantastic. It’s one of those dining experiences. Anything in Little Italy is always a blast. I’m sure we’d hit up some of the local wineries too. There’s so many great spots popping up and some old ones too that are goodies. I tend to take guests to our local farmer’s markets. They are all sweet. One of my favorites is when the paella people are there with there huge paella pan and you can see it cooking! Yum. I love taking guests to Liberty Station. There’s something for everyone – really good ramen, Mexican or empanadas. I love when there’s live music there. Guests love to visit the Hotel Del. It has such great history and it’s a breathtaking view of the ocean and cliffs. We also love taking people to Mission Bay and Beach – for a bite to eat, a board walk, or paddle boarding. You can paddle board to a local restaurant patio – which is really fun! Renting a boat or doing a boat tour is really fun too. There’s so much to do and see here. The list is really endless!
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
My mentor, Charles Scott, who is an awesome guy. He’s a devoted Dad, author, speaker, and adventurer.
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